tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3135188917425528500.post8784407884843876572..comments2023-08-16T10:41:04.862-04:00Comments on ECing and attachment parenting: Why do we change?le35http://www.blogger.com/profile/03897932629532339487noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3135188917425528500.post-8254268998129333112008-06-24T00:39:00.000-04:002008-06-24T00:39:00.000-04:00You know Ellie I came to Fl to be with my husband ...You know Ellie I came to Fl to be with my husband not for him, I love my husband, but I wonder if he would have made the same choice if the situation was reversed. I just wonder after seven years of marriage would I have done it all over again, would I have moved 3,000 miles away from my family. Don’t get me wrong I still love EZ E, but Hmmmm……. <BR/>PS Great Post I do the same with Lena “you are choosing to sit in time out because…….”Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11487691259496846451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3135188917425528500.post-60377639691866129482008-06-19T00:14:00.000-04:002008-06-19T00:14:00.000-04:00Love the last paragraph. You are right.Love the last paragraph. You are right.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3135188917425528500.post-73571243104962294952008-06-18T21:57:00.000-04:002008-06-18T21:57:00.000-04:00Julie,I do believe in cause and effect, but in the...Julie,<BR/><BR/>I do believe in cause and effect, but in the end, I might do something hoping that Rob will feel happy about it, but if he doesn't, I shouldn't get angry with him for that. One of my goals in life is to do things that I know Rob will like. I want to help him be as happy as he can be. In the end though, I'm only in control of me. <BR/><BR/>At first, in this post, I was going to write how came to GA for Rob, but I really didn't. I really came for me because I wanted to be with Rob, and if that's where he was going to be, then I wanted to be here, too.le35https://www.blogger.com/profile/03897932629532339487noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3135188917425528500.post-24741938743655481342008-06-18T21:41:00.000-04:002008-06-18T21:41:00.000-04:00I don't find them mutually exclusive. It makes me ...I don't find them mutually exclusive. It makes me feel good to know that my loved one feels good and I want them the feel good and it all goes round and round.<BR/><BR/>The reward for me here in Texas is extremely unexpected. I seriously felt it as a jail term or death sentence, in a way. I talked like that to, and that's not to my credit.<BR/><BR/>I really saw it as an enormous sacrifice and I had to work through that. My reward was seeing my kids happy. It really was for them.<BR/><BR/>That I have worked and worked to build a good, new life for me too, in the midst of building a good life for them...it's a credit, but also a bit unexpected.<BR/><BR/>It's true I can't control how others choose, live, feel or do.<BR/><BR/>But I do believe in cause and effect. We can influence others and they can influence us. I've been down and my husband has done Just The Thing to help, even if it puts him out. That's a double lift to my day.<BR/><BR/>So I think it's a circle, inclusive, of benevolence, selflessness, compromise and sacrifice sometimes.<BR/><BR/>But I agree this was a great post. You know, you have lots of good ones but I might rank this in the top two.<BR/><BR/>P.S. The see saw is brilliance. Love that!Julie Pipperthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03169574697104642479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3135188917425528500.post-34991192217693060782008-06-18T18:36:00.000-04:002008-06-18T18:36:00.000-04:00Actually, I agree with you. People always do what...Actually, I agree with you. People always do what they want, gunpoint not withstanding. The fact that it benefits other people many times is just a testament to your character, that you WANT to help others, be with others, etc.<BR/><BR/>Nice post! :)Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14599462281364463565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3135188917425528500.post-42943530605613334812008-06-18T16:24:00.000-04:002008-06-18T16:24:00.000-04:00So, in essence, you don't believe there is such a ...So, in essence, you don't believe there is such a thing as benevolence? Or selflessness? With all respect, I disagree. If it's all about getting rewards, that's bartering. <BR/><BR/>An example I'd pull out of the wind is Mother Teresa. It's fairly well established that she did the things she did for a higher purpose - and required and asked for no personal reward. <BR/><BR/>:) <BR/><BR/>Interesting post! Really!thailandchanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10171731740204067889noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3135188917425528500.post-65563037365534787962008-06-18T08:36:00.000-04:002008-06-18T08:36:00.000-04:00Great post. Lately I haven't been responding much ...Great post. Lately I haven't been responding much on your blog because it's either been something we've talked about, or I feel somewhat silly saying "I agree" on so many things. I enjoyed reading this one, though, and I wanted to comment. I am glad you chose to come with me for yourself, and I am glad we're choosing together to head towards the next chapter. Thanks for the love and support to go for it all.Roberthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04826309601023733396noreply@blogger.com