tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3135188917425528500.post1761624239054531341..comments2023-08-16T10:41:04.862-04:00Comments on ECing and attachment parenting: Just about playing the gamele35http://www.blogger.com/profile/03897932629532339487noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3135188917425528500.post-52830567989718430422008-02-11T14:47:00.000-05:002008-02-11T14:47:00.000-05:00I think at the end of the day, the main goal of pa...I think at the end of the day, the main goal of parenting is teaching the kids values. Then, they can figure out on their own how to implement them. If I can teach them sportsmanship and enjoyment of learning even during the hard times, then they can figure out what to acutally learn, but they'll be happy with what they're getting, and it will keep other things at bay.le35https://www.blogger.com/profile/03897932629532339487noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3135188917425528500.post-8656991178754498772008-02-11T11:46:00.000-05:002008-02-11T11:46:00.000-05:00What a great post, and even better is you being co...What a great post, and even better is you being courageous enough to make the improvement, while even better is the great model that establishes for your own kids.<BR/><BR/>I can't anticipate all the challenges my kids will face, but I can do my best to provide positive guidance on the ones I know about (such as my blog post today) and keep myself available to them with love and understanding.<BR/><BR/>Competitiveness might be one.<BR/><BR/>But the one my daughter and I share is justice.<BR/><BR/>It really tweaks our wagons when things are---by our perception---unjust. She doesn't distinguish unjust from unfair, and hers is largely about fairness now.<BR/><BR/>So we work on the journey.Julie Pipperthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03169574697104642479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3135188917425528500.post-70495886785421720762008-02-11T07:51:00.000-05:002008-02-11T07:51:00.000-05:00I am a naturally competitive person when it comes ...I am a naturally competitive person when it comes to playing actual games. I cannot stand people who lie or cheat to win, though, and when I determine someone is cheating I will not play with them anymore. Beyond that, I tend to find competition enjoyable as long as everyone has a positive attitude and is enjoying the game. As soon as it gets negative, then I'd just as soon be done playing. I have played bridge for hours because I enjoyed the company, and I've quit after half an hour because there was obvious hostility within the group playing. I enjoy winning, but I enjoy the interpersonal communication around a game more.<BR/><BR/>In life, I am far less competitive. I prefer to leave some "winnings" on the table of life in most cases to maintain a positive relationship. If I feel like I have always gotten the short end of a deal from a relationship - I'm always the one leaving more and I'm rarely if ever getting a return - then I end that relationship. I think life has a give and take, an ebb and flow, that becomes a problem whenever there is no balance. If someone always has the upper hand with me, then I prefer not to deal with that person. If I have to because of business, then I do my best to keep conversations brief and cordial, but I work towards removing their control of the situation as reasonably as I can.<BR/><BR/>Interesting post.Roberthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04826309601023733396noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3135188917425528500.post-6937669664060200972008-02-10T20:06:00.000-05:002008-02-10T20:06:00.000-05:00That's a pretty insightful post. Most people neve...That's a pretty insightful post. Most people never get to that point in their lives to realize something like that.<BR/><BR/>:)<BR/><BR/>Oh, did you get the book? Boomsday, Christopher Buckley. I put the event late enough so that everyone would theoretically have kids in bed. :)Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14599462281364463565noreply@blogger.com